Kids are amazing. From the moment they are born they surprise and amaze us. Throughout the toddler years they make us laugh, and cry. Then we reach the teenage years and we are astounded that these tiny little creatures have slowly turned into young adults. If you have survived the first 18 years of parenting then congratulations. Problem is, it doesn’t stop there does it? So what do we do when we are living with a fully grown adult who isn’t quite ready to fly the nest?
Very few parents are glad to see their children leave home. It’s exciting to watch them go off to college or see them head out to move into their first home. However it is also really sad. It feels like the journey you have been on for the last 18 years has come to an end. There are a fair few children though, who are still living at home well into their twenties and whilst we might love having them around, could it be that they need a little nudge out of the nest?
We aren’t suggesting you throw them naked and cold out onto the street. However does the thought of having your home back, and not having to chase around cleaning up after or feeding a mouth that is capable of doing those things themselves, not feel like a really good option right now? Your child needs to learn how to be independent and there are some great ways you can help them get there.
Firstly, if you have a garage that could be converted into a sort of studio flat, why not consider this option. That way your child is still right by your home but has their own front door and their own living space. You could link the garage and your kitchen through the laundry room and explain that you aren’t going to be taking care of those things anymore.
Another idea, for those who have the budget is looking into mobile homes. It may sound dramatic, but having a mobile home for your child to use as the stepping stone to their first home could also be great for the future. It will mean there is always a base here, with you. Somewhere that your children can fall back on without losing their independence. It also means you can encourage guests to come round and stay for longer. You could even use it as an office if you are thinking of working from home.
Don’t think you are being mean by giving them the push they need to stand on their own two feet, do it gradually and then stand back and watch them fly. Children sometimes need the confidence to realise the benefit of living the solo life and you might need to hold their hand a little bit during the transition. That’s ok, it’s a pretty scary world out there. Don’t be too worried when they finally ship out. They won’t stay away for too long. Promise.