Americans don’t really sit still. From the earliest days of the country, men and women of this country have looked to the horizon and set off, trying to find somewhere new to live. And we’re still doing it: each year, hundreds of thousands of people pack up their belongings and head to a new state. While this is mostly good, it does mean that we have to leave some close friends and family behind. Thankfully, though, living elsewhere doesn’t mean you have to forget about these people. It’s easy to stay in touch, and thus close, if you put in a little bit of effort.
Stay Interested and Involved
You might be on a new adventure, but spare a thought for all the people you’ve left behind. They’re carrying on with their regular life, only now, it lacks your presence. Some people can feel a little hurt when someone close to them leaves; it can feel like they’re no longer interested in what’s happening in their life. This, of course, is not the case – but you’ll have to make them see it. Make sure you’re staying interested and involved in their life, in the same way, you were when you were living just around the corner.
Honor the Moments
You may not be there in person, but all of those birthdays, anniversaries, baby announcements, and so on are still happening. Make sure you have all the important dates in your diary before you leave, and honor them when you’re away just as you would if you were at home. You can send happy birthday gifts, congratulations cards, and other things to let them know that, even though you now live many miles away, you’re just as big a part of their life as you’ve always been. Plus, it’ll be an extra pleasant surprise coming from you, since they won’t expect it.
Thinking of You Messages
A friendship isn’t just about the big moments. There’s also all of those small moments, shared jokes, memories, and so on that make a relationship unique. If you’re walking around town and see something that makes you think of a loved one, take a photo and send it to them. It’ll be sure to brighten up their day, and will remind them that they’re on your mind.
Cut Out Superficial Chat
You can send text messages back and forth, but they’re no substitute for an in-depth, caring chat. It’s much better to have a one-hour phone call conversation where you can really go deep than send a series of text messages back and forth. Set a time, sink into the sofa, and have a long chat, of the kind that only old friends can have.
Plan to Meet Up
And hey, distance isn’t so significant these days! With cheap flights available, you can plan to get together. They can visit you, and you can visit them. Just because you can no longer walk to each other’s home, it doesn’t mean you can’t spend time together!